Thanks for sharing your story. A straight-laced, returned sister missionary, raised in the cult, and in family of similarly entrenched cult members, will not likely remain happy with a non-member. We all know people who know that the gospel is true but they will not accept it. You are commenting using your WordPress. Never marry someone with the goal of a post-marriage conversion.
It had nothing to do with our relationship and so much to do with the pressures and demands of his work. The Church encourages people to be a good influence on one another, and she will probably expect you to dress well for her. I've been the main parent for 30 years. I will be marrying my doctor boyfriend soon, and I have to say, I have never been more lonely. At the beginning of the relationship, which is not long ago, he use to carry out conversations, even while working. He can't make a mental switch easily to adjust to our pace of life. If you are in a movie theater, you can't talk, so you can't get to know the girl you are dating.
She got engaged 3 months later. I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. You don't have to believe them yourself, but you need that respect in thought as well as action, and you need to frame this as your own journey because you can only change yourself. Mormons are one of the few remaining groups with healthy women. By that I mean that we ought to consider simply marrying within the faith and in the temple for all the reasons that people have given. Love is what we do, not what we feel. Jack is right about the demographics. However, be careful to not ask something that may offend your date. Only idiots are unfriendly to non-Mormon spouses. As a docs wife we have to deal with all sorts, and prayer has often been my lifeline.
That isn't fair on you, and again will create stress and a stress point in the relationship. We can't tell you that. He also travels an inordinate amount. You guys are looking into this wayyyyyyy too much. Marry a person based on his character, not his religion. I'm not quite bitter but a tad fed up as have given up family, career, friends and started afresh x 2 again to be left alone at the other side of the planet with two young kids, moving house and setting up home with just 4 suitcases. Please wait a few minutes and refresh this page. There will be pressure to go to church, marry in the temple, Yada Yada You will want to make sure you're ready to battle this for years, maybe a lifetime.
